We remember, each and every year the anniversary of the death of a loved one! The anniversary is known as Yahrzeit and the prayer is Yizkor! The Hebrew date for my Mother the 6th of Elul, my Uncle the 7th of Elul, and my Fathers is the 8th of Elul! I remember the year that the Hebrew date fell on my Birthday, September 3, that was very emotional for me but then every year, no matter the date, is emotional! I use an electric lamp except for Yom Kippur when I light a candle!